Marriage on the Foundation of God

Do you have a marriage on the rocks or on The Rock?  

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For almost 9 years, I have had a rocky relationship with God sooo my relationship with my husband was inevitably even rockier.  This summer of 2006 it crashed down all around me.  Through God's mercy we are still married.  But more importantly, through God's mercy my eyes and ears are now open and I can see how much the Lord loves me and how much I needed to change and still need to change.  


This summer I started going to a Christian counseling center and learned things about myself and my past that I had been denying.  God put into my life a marriage mentor who suggested many tools to help me with my marriage (mainly a walk with God).  I learned a valuable lesson this summer 2006


That the only emotions, actions, and feelings that I own are my own emotions, actions, and feelings.  That I cannot change anyone but myself.


Most people might already know that.  I didn't.  I had tried to play god in my husbands life.  I had been hurt when he didn't react or feel the way I thought he should. I was wrong.  I was exactly what this verse is talking about...


Matthew 7:3-5

 3"Why do you look at the speck of sawdust in your brother's eye and pay no attention to the plank in your own eye? 4How can you say to your brother, 'Let me take the speck out of your eye,' when all the time there is a plank in your own eye? 5You hypocrite, first take the plank out of your own eye, and then you will see clearly to remove the speck from your brother's eye.


Now I am slowly but surely changing by God's grace.  He has given me tools such as prayer, scripture, accountability partners, Bible study groups, support groups, and guidance from the Holy Spirit.  Here are some books that have helped me so much.  I hope they will help you too...



the Bible


Power of a Praying Wife by Stormie Omartian

(she also writes Power of a Praying Husband, Parent, etc this is a prayer guide book where all the prayers except the first one only take maybe 6 minutes of your time)


Love and Respect by Emmerson Eggerichs


Boundaries in Marriage by Cloud/Townsend (I also learned this summer that God calls me to be submissive to my husband BUT not a wimp.  Praying for strength, the right words and timing and this book has helped me a great deal..)


Sacred Marriage (haven't read this one yet but heard it's great!)


Marriage on the Rock (haven't read this one yet but heard it's great!)


Love is Tough by Dobson ( this is such a good book for those with a spouse that have commited an affair(s) - it teaches you about setting boundaries, getting back your self-respect, and coming to terms with having to let go of your spouse and handing them over to God)


I'll add more books as I learn more about them.  I have a long list I will place here from the Bible study on the book Love and Respect from fall 2006.  Hope this information is helpful!  Please don't give up when reading Love and Respect if you are the husband skip the chapters about how she can show you unconditional respect and if you are the wife skip the chapters about how he can show you unconditional love because we cannot change anyone but ourselves and reading these chapters may be a temptation for you to  "look at the speck of sawdust in your brother's eye and pay no attention to the plank in your own eye"


God answers prayer.